The decision to search for a birth mother is a big one and no adoptive parent that I have ever met takes it lightly. Here are a few things to think about to help you decide what is right for your family.
One concern I often hear from adoptive parents who are considering searching for a birth parent is that they don’t want to invade the birth mother's privacy, interrupt her life, bring up painful memories or cause difficulties for her with her family.
Once you’ve made the decision to search for your child’s birth mother, the next most difficult task is figuring out what the heck to write in your first letter to her. It can seem like an impossible task to sum up in a letter all of your feelings and all of the special moments of your child’s life.
You’ve finally made the decision to search for your child’s birth mother. Now what? It’s time to choose a search professional. Choosing a searcher can be daunting given that the future of your child’s relationship with her birth family rests in their hands. But as long as you do your research in identifying reputable searchers, choosing among them becomes a matter of personal preference, style and comfort.
Maybe you’ve been thinking for years that someday you should start that search and find the woman who gave birth to your child. But figuring out where to start, knowing who to trust, coming up with the funds, and digging out the paperwork can be overwhelming, not to mention the emotional issues this all brings up. If you are on the fence, here are 3 reasons why you should consider getting started now.